I don't think so.

She knew I was going to talk to you; I said I would. No real sense if hiding it. It's not like you liked hurting her and I yelled at you.

You didn't realize how you sounded. You didn't intend to hurt her. I think as long as your intent is to apologize for hurting her and insulting something important to her and you keep that at the forefront, everything else is less important.