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cactusy

i'm fine, i don't need a pep talk

and i know this kind of thing isn't exactly a strength of mine, so quit blowing smoke up my ass

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abrightboy

I’m not.

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cactusy

ok then quit flattering me

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abrightboy

It’s just a fact. Does it always make you uncomfortable when people point out your positive traits?

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cactusy

no

[Please imagine this delivered in the flattest voice imaginable, Malcolm.]

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abrightboy

That’s a relief.

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cactusy

being good with people isn't one of my positive traits

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abrightboy

That doesn’t mean you’d be a bad Warden. You care about the jobs you commit to.

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cactusy

i don't think i'm going to be a bad warden

great is stretching it, though

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abrightboy

You can’t make people care about what they do. Don’t undersell it.

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cactusy

what the hell is that suppose to mean

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abrightboy

It means it's a rare quality and you have it. That's not nothing.

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cactusy

it's not that rare

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abrightboy

Because your team had it, too?

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cactusy

and so have a lot of people i've met. your social circle just sucks, Malcolm.

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abrightboy

It's not based on my social circle.

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cactusy

your professional circle counts.

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abrightboy

My professional circle care a lot about what they do, but I know they're exceptional. And I don't have a personal circle. A lot of people find me kind of too much. Shocking, right?

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cactusy

then where are you getting your data

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abrightboy

You mean like which peer reviewed study of human behaviour? Maybe you should just learn how to take a compliment. We could work on that skill, if you want. It might help with the cultivation of your social circle.

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cactusy

i need good working relationships, not friends

you know, i went to med school.

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abrightboy

You didn't mention that when we talked about your diagnosis. But everyone needs friends.

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cactusy

i have some friends. that's not my point.

i've taken some psych classes, too. read some studies of human behavior. don't remember any that concluded that most people don't care about what they do.

your closet misanthropy is showing.

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abrightboy

Well there are two categories, right? People who can work in the field of their choice, like us, and people who have to just work. Nobody goes to school thinking of their dream job at McDonalds or on the assembly line or ringing up groceries. But someone has to do that work. Do you think all of them bring their A game every day? The ones that do? That's who they are. But you can't base that study on people living their passion. Of course they care about what they do, because they get to do what they care about.